Have you, peaceful person, ever been accused of always wanting to fight? There is one person in my life that I strongly disagree with on many a subject, and when I state my point of view that just so happens, to not align with theirs, I get accused thusly: There you go, there you go. You always want to fight; You can never agree. A friend of mine faces similar situations, and I had to laugh in appreciation, when she stated: No, I don't like to fight, I just don't want to be provoked. Man alive, that was music to my ears, because I really, truly, wholeheartedly, do not want to argue, fight, fuss, disagree, scream or walk away, knowing there will be no resolution in the aftermath, because very rarely is there resolution with instigators, but man alive again, some people love to provoke others, to get a rise out of them. I have learned to not care what they want, or think, making it easier for me to disengage.
Thing is, what some people want you and I to take seriously, and deem important business, are often things and issues that are not of interest to us. One of my other friends frequently detaches herself from other peoples troubles, by stating, Not my pig, not my farm. I like this approach, since it has a tendency to close the door on any ruminating regarding the arguments others bring to us, that seem nutso-crazy, half-baked, or just plain old annoying make work projects they have concocted on our behalf. No, as the saying goes, means No, and I say no to being drawn into someone else's den of mental darkness and mischief.
Only spin doctors blame other people for not agreeing with them. Only the wicked minded suggest, that there is something wrong with another person, when they don't nod there head yes to every suggestion they make and every subtle and not so subtle seed planting, that anyone that does not perceive the world the way they do, has something wrong with them. Have you heard this, ever, dear one: What the hell is wrong with you? This is one of the most vile and insulting attacks that can be made on an innocent person, that has every right to have their own opinion, and state their own point of view, when a person in their life is trying to impose their will and way on them. To imply there is something wrong and to bring hell into the picture, can be a dramatization that unsettles the other person's soul, causing insecurity and shaking in their being, especially if these words are used on a child.
How about, Go to hell, or You are the devil... Has anyone directed these words toward you?
Don't take any of it personally, dear one. There are people in this world that don't deserve your attention, and you can decide to disengage and detach, and while this greatly irritates the would be aggressor and agitator, it need not disturb your peace, your calm, your joy of life. Answer them back when and if you so desire, and then walk away from the pig, and leave them to wallow in their own miserable muck.
Practice this with me now: Not my pig, not my farm.
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