A boundary breaker criss crosses invisible lines that ought to be respected. A boundary breaker enters space that ought to be prohibited, invitation only areas, with lots and lots of words, and grandiosity.
The boundary breaker promises much, but when it is time to deliver, they have many reasons, otherwise known as excuses, for why they can not follow through, and usually, the circumstances are so far beyond their control, that the person hearing the reasons why, otherwise known as lies, for why a task cannot be completed on time, is put in a position of either sympathizing, or being seen as a callous and cruel person, for not displaying compassion. The boundary breaker activates the emotional crank, to spin their yarn, and their prey, into a knot of discomfiture.
Dealing with someone like this is tedious, and time consuming, but the only way to handle them, is to stay calm, not engage in their shenanigans by becoming sensitive and emotional, and standing firm and strong on the foundation of facts. The boundary breaker, when he or she does not get the response they want, will start with slights and outright insults, in an attempt to establish a hierarchy of superiority, and your goal, when interacting with a person such as this, is to detach, and maintain your sense of autonomy, because let me tell you what, dear one, they want to absorb you into themselves if they can, and have you jello shaky on the inside, so that you cannot resist them on the outside.
I have dealt with many a boundary breaker in my life time. I always feel like I haven't quite learnt my lesson, when I find I am dealing with yet another one. The boundary breaker has a way of weaselling that is rather admirable and artful... they have a tendency to talk and talk and talk, and I recall the expression, Bullsh*t baffles brains, and this is precisely the premise they count on, to get what they want, while pretending the party on the other side of the table, will also get, what was agreed upon and promised.
It takes me less time now, to reestablish boundaries, when someone crosses them. It takes me less time to call it, when I see it: some people seem trustworthy, but when they are discovered to be unworthy of trust, you and I must be honest with ourselves, and acknowledge we made an error choosing to interact with them at all, since there may very well have been, many clues and cues to their inner workings. Next, we must find a way to remain frank, and walk a straight line of holding strictly to the facts, with the hope that we will be made whole, after having time, energy, and perhaps money, being stolen from us by the boundary breaker.
Honesty has always been the best policy, and while I live by this rule in my personal and professional life, I accept that not everyone sees this policy as vital. Two people lose when one decides to deceive, but the person that lies, and excuses themselves when asked to be responsible for their promises, is in peril spiritually, since they have compromised their very soul, by misleading and manipulating, the one that believed they would deliver on an agreement.
Relationship is paramount: this said, the boundary breaker thinks not of long term relationship, but only short term gain, at the expense of trust, friendship, and future agreements, that would benefit both parties.
You know you are dealing with a boundary breaker when:





